12 days! It’s been 12 days since my tiny person arrived. She’s already had 2 doctors appointments. The first they said she lost 6 ounces. The second one, which was today they said she had gained them back and looks very healthy. She’s grown a little now and is taller. It’s crazy how much change I can already see. Her personality is starting to shine through just a tiny bit and I can’t wait until she starts officially being able to recognize us by sight. I love this tiny little person who has captured my heart. I can’t imagine life without her.
Just before Belle was born everyone kept telling me how hard it was going to be, how I better sleep now, i’d never have a life and how having a baby was going to destroy my marriage. It’s odd that just before I was going to meet this amazing tiny person, people everywhere wanted to make it seem like my life was over and that everything was about to get messy and horrible. As someone who had never had children it was a little discouraging.
Jay and I had several conversations about it and we decided to not listen to their bitter comments. I’m glad we made the choice to ignore them. Having Arabella has left us a little sleep deprived and we’ve had our moments when we’ve been frustrated but in no way do I feel like our lives are over and that she is going to destroy our marriage. Actually I feel like I love my husband even more as I watch him interact with our daughter. I appreciate him more that we’ve gone through this. As he tried to rub my back during labor, and help me out of bed each day that I couldn’t do it on my own. He’s been a total trooper! I appreciate him in so many more ways… ways I couldn’t see or understand before our daughter had arrived. The more time we spend together as a family the deeper I fall in love with him. I am so grateful for him every day. And my daughter… she doesn’t hold me back. Yes sometimes things are more difficult. We have to take her out every-time we get out of the car and unpack the stroller… big deal. Eventually we will get used to the small changes and we’ll learn to get used to the big changes as well. She brings so much joy to our lives. More joy than we had before she arrived. Yes our lives have changed… but not in the negative and biter ways that people said it would. Those people were most simply… Wrong. Every sleepless hour, every cut, every scar, every extra pound, every inconvenience… is completely worth being able to hold and love this tiny person each day.
Thank you to everyone who has sent our family cards and gifts for Arabella. We feel so blessed to have you in our lives and it makes me really happy that you are showing your love and celebrating Arabella’s arrival. It really means a lot to us that you have welcomed our daughter into the world with us. I hope she continues to know how loved she is.
We can’t wait to share photos of her in her new non-gender-neutral outfits! Bring on the girly clothes! Okay we love our neutral clothing just as much (that’s right… she wont be all frills!).
We’ve been pretty tired this week so I haven’t been able to post a whole lot. We’re still amazed at how this little girl is part of our lives and in awe of how we ever lived without her. Mommy and Daddy are completely in love with our tiny person but are still sleep deprived. If it takes us a little while to get back to your calls and texts please be patient with us. Tomorrow I have a check up and Arabella has one on Tuesday. It’s a whole new adventure but we love it. She truly is an answer to our prayers.
Arabella is over a week old now. I can still remember dressing her in her first outfit to bring her home from the hospital. We had picked out a cute gender neutral onesie with a sailboat on the front. We bought a bow to match just in case we had a little girl. Lucky for us we needed it
We snapped a few photos at the hospital and added a hello my name is tag so we could announce her name to the world. The world to me was close friends and family. My husband thought it would be clever if we added a line from a song and sent it to the musician. The photo was similar to the one below.
The next day a friend called me to tell me that she saw Arabella’s photo on facebook and that it had over 83000 likes. The photo was also on twitter and instagram. I told myself not to panic but there was something unsettling about my baby girl being plastered all over the internet. By the end of the day there was over 100k likes. Thousands of comments (some negative and some positive) were listed below my tiny newborns photo. In no time at all my baby girl had been all over the internet. It goes to show how quickly one photo can spread. I went on Matthew West’s facebook today and saw that as of today her photo has been liked more than 103,000 times and shared by more than 6,000 people. Isn’t it weird… would you send out your child’s photo to that many strangers? I wouldn’t. Well not intentionally. This only confirmed my desire to no longer paste photos on facebook. It’s hard because I want to share them but not at the cost of literally plastering my daughters image all over the internet. It’s an odd feeling. I love celebrating her. She’s pretty amazing but sometimes I feel like I want to keep her to myself too. She’s so precious. I know that she’s touched a lot of lives but I can’t imagine what other peoples intentions are. There are a lot of creepers out there. And I feel a lot like a big mamma bear who just wants to cushion her from the world until I absolutely can’t anymore. This first week flew by way too quickly. Not quite as quickly as her photo spread across the internet but too quickly for my liking. I think we made the right choice trying to keep photos on the blog and off facebook. And I think we’re making even better choices from now on. I think we’ll stick to sharing photos with family and friends. Things just spread way too quickly.